Yes, it's Halloween time, but you know what’s really scary? When it feels like the thrill is gone.
Dr. Laura Berman, director of the Berman Center, has some thoughts on what to do when the novelty has worn off – or what to do when it feels like the novelty has officially worn off.
Lackluster Phase #1: The Novelty Has Officially Worn Off
When you first met, your mattress springs squeaked on a regular basis and you always had that dewy glow. That's because infatuation triggers the release of extra dopamine, a brain chemical that fuels your libido, says Laura Berman, Ph.D., director of the Berman Center for sexual health and menopause management in Chicago and author of "The Passion Prescription." When the novelty wears off, so does the dopamine boost, Dr. Berman says.
Get Back on Track: Scare your pants off
Dopamine also kicks in when you're taken by surprise. "Do things that are new and different together, even a little scary," Dr. Berman says. Even a relatively tame act can be a thrill if it's unexpected, says Sherry Amatenstein, relationship expert and author of "Love Lessons from Bad Breakups." Pick up a box of drugstore hair color (the kind that eventually washes out) and go to town on each other. You'll get that sexy hands-on-the-scalp feeling along with the risky excitement of not knowing quite how it's going to turn out.
Hmm, sounds like Dr. Berman just wrote a prescription for Intimate Surprises!
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